Parents and Teenagers difficult task?

Teenagers PARENTS AND DIFFICULT TASK? Today we live in a society of frequent and violent, where the media affect the ways of relating in the family. This makes parents feel vulnerable and insecure in the upbringing of children, even more so if you have teenage children. How to raise a teenager? Should I be authoritarian or friend?, Do I allow or ban? ... Parents often wonder, not knowing how to act leaves a taste of fear and disorientation, with the role of parents. Why is it so hard to relate to teens? Often the crisis stems, in which the adolescent is treated as a child and is required as an adult. It is no longer a child, but not yet an adult, is in a transition period in which the rebellion, emotional disorder, narcissism, feelings of insecurity and anxiety, identity crisis, conflicts multiply. This crisis affects not only children but also their parents and are precisely the ones who generate the most stress at this stage. The difference in generation, not to make communication easier and understanding, intolerance, parents want to make them a copy of it or make what they could do, fatigue, permissiveness, are some of those potholes can upset the harmony and not only hurt but render it unsafe adolescents with poor self-concept and unable to adapt functionally critical to a society in constant metamorphosis.

Thanks to the generation gap, the concept of life as a father does not match that of the child. This duality of vision, a crack is so abysmal that separates the teen parents, as different ways of looking at life: look at her from behind and watch from the front, the parents speak from personal experience and his son responds from inexperience; parents want to impose their vision of things and your child may not understand or you want to, is eager to explore, discover, learn to experience ... It is possible to achieve a rapprochement between parents and children to the extent that it gives you confidence to adolescent children trust is a prerequisite for children to trust their parents and talk about personal things by promoting communication and understanding. It is necessary to understand that during adolescence there is an emotional and physical separation of the adolescent with respect to their parents, this being a necessary step in the transition to adulthood, the fact that parents are prepared, this makes it easier process, both for themselves and their children. As parents raising children is drawn off, which are not slaves to their fears, prejudices, egos, not mediocrity.

That can cope with ease and dignity in society and obey ethical awareness and autonomous. A freedom that should be in proportion to the responsibility they demonstrate. The role of parents is extremely important in shaping the personality of his son, the example is a prime tool to establish patterns of behavior in the young being the first and closest models, parents. They learn from what your parents say but mainly for what they are, it is necessary consistency between what they are, say and do, it depends on the strength of education. If these three orders divorce education is broken. Teens need to take and integrate into their lives the values ​​that significantly affect their personal performance leading and guiding their behavior. JENNY MELCHOR educator and psychotherapist Canevaro